Re-connections keep stealing the focus

I'm this close to intall back WinXP, I can't deal with this problem anymore.

Everytime my PPPoE connection fails (dunno why it almost only does when I'm
activly using the comp, but no matters, prolly my ISP), the computer is
set-up to reconnect auto, so what it does is that it yanks me from my program
or game or whatever and pop-up a reconnect timer with an offer/request for
storing a log for diagnostics purposes. I don't care for the log and I will
call my ISP for the many disconnects but the problem remain that Windows
should do the re-connect without having to shout about it and close whatever
windows I'm in and stealing the focus. Not all games support correctly the
alt-tab especially when it's not user initiated and as such the games crash.

So, is there a way for it to do reconnect whitout poping a window or at
least without stealing the focus?